Grief permeates through Robert Pattinson’s new movie, Remember Me. How people deal with grief, how people don’t deal with grief. How it effects people; changes them.


It was beautiful in a heartbreaking way, and hard for me to watch in some ways.


I nearly didn’t want to see it, because I knew that it was centered around a family trying to cope with a traumatic event and how splintered people can become following the death of a loved one.


But I’m so glad I did.


I read one review recently that it seemed to ‘revel in and glorify’ tragedy and remorse, but I don’t believe that’s true. Grief is a very real human condition – art serves to celebrate and represent all facets of human nature, grief included. Sadness and depression doesn’t make art better (see the previous post regarding the NY Times ‘Depression’s Upside’ article) but it is often when things are bleakest that people find a voice strong enough to reach out.


Tyler smokes too much, drinks too much, sleeps with a lot of women and moves through life like a cool breeze – ruffling feathers but never solidly in one place. It was gut wrenching to see him pick fights and lash out, blinded by loss and burdened by the weight of a family who was as lost as he.


I sat in the theatre with my heart pounding at times wondering if I could even sit through the movie but I did and I’m glad. It was beautiful, poignant, heart breaking, bittersweet. Robert Pattinson was amazing, as was Emilie De Ravin, Pierce Brosnan and Chris Cooper.


It reminded me so much of the Christina Rossetti poem, Remember Me.


Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go, yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann’d:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.

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